Month: July 2015

Ebb and flow of far away relationships

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The tides of feeling ebb and flow

Fantasy, reality side by side grow

I shut my eyes and all I see
Is your smiling face looking down on me
It makes me want to run and find
Love and succour of another kind
But you are oh, so far away
A fantasy at the end of the day

I want to reach and touch your hand

In my mind I almost can, in this world, fantasy land
You fill my soul with song and light

Add a dimension that meshes just right

We share some parts of our lives

Though a full account will never arrive

I read your words and scour the lines
For meanings that are left behind

But you are oh so far away
Just a dream at the end of the day
This sharing brings some emotional pain
But equally an amount of gain

I accept the limitations of this world

It adds dimension sails unfurled

I close my eyes and all I see
Is a fantasy fading away from me

Music

Feel the rhythm feel the beat
Sense the music adding heat
Threads of sound around, around
Those Vibrations shake the ground

Musicians play with all their might
Sending melodies into the night
Threads of sound around, around
Stir the soul, nerve endings pound

Bodies jostle ,writhe and shake
Dancing to the musics take
Threads of sound around and around
Mesmerised by the magicians sound.

Coming up from within.

Jo Traveller

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I am in awe
Blown away
Can’t ever unsee
What I saw tonight
Thankful for the awakening

I am abundant
Connected and pure
Can’t ever change what is
Only how I see
And my eyes are open

I am love
Can love myself
Without guilt or self hatred
And still be ok

Coming up from within
Can’t stop me now
Bursting with life
With a smile on my face

The journey goes on
Never starting or stopping
Just going forever
As love does in me

Find me on Twitter @tallerthanilook

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Emotional Baggage

wpid-wp-1436197153764.jpegIs your partner failing to meet your needs, not making you happy, are you drifting apart?

Are new relationships failing?

Maybe some of the cause of your problems is the amount of emotional baggage you are carrying that is impacting on your behaviour and your expectations.

How much emotional baggage are you carrying ?

Is emotional baggage impacting on a relationship, or stopping you making that new relationship successfully?

To make space in your life for a new relationship or to improve your current one, its time to start releasing anything you’ve been holding on to that is preventing you from experiencing true intimacy(baggage). Identifying those issues and working to eradicate them will bring you to a level of self-awareness that will give you insight, flexibility, and freedom, making you much more available for  satisfying relationships.  Heard the phrase  someone has “too much baggage” to be ready for a committed, connected relationship, its true. We have a set of beliefs about ourselves and others that we have gathered over the years many learned in childhood, these beliefs we use consciously and unconsciously to live our lives. The problem is that some of these truisms, beliefs …are negatives and some are actually untrue but we believe in them and they colour our actions and attitudes as we go about the daily grind.

Baggage isn’t always what we think it is. It isn’t necessarily our circumstances, our past, or even the issues we’re currently working with. Baggage is often just a lack of flexibility about accepting whatever is showing up in our life or someone else’s and therefore an inability to move forward.

We all have baggage. What’s important is recognizing our baggage and minimizing its effects on our relationships.

An underlying feeling of emptiness, loneliness, or longing is something many, if not most, of us have experienced at one time or another. No matter how rich our lives may be, with a satisfying career, material wealth, and plenty of friends, we may still be carrying around a low-level feeling that something important is missing. This can be made worse by negative thoughts about our lives.

The place many of us turn  to in order to address our feeling of incompleteness, is our  relationships.

Great you are saying, I find my other half ,my soul mate and everything will be hunky dorey. Maybe…but if all it takes is to find the significant other , why are so many relationships rocky? Is it that many of us have not  found the right fit, or is it the baggage that one or both of us is carrying that is impeding harmony.

Our  significant other can only offer us acknowledgment, encouragement, approval, acceptance, they cannot make us feel complete and whilst we have our baggage it will  never be enough to end our feelings of dissatisfaction of wanting.

Once we realize that a partner is not going to be the one to make us happy or give us everything we think we need to be complete, we’re likely to feel disappointed, discouraged, and maybe even resentful.

We often unknowingly drag a suitcase full of problems into a new relationship, drop them at our partner’s feet, and say, “Fix these for me!”

The way out of this trap is to make a commitment to ‘being the one’ who will address your own issues,to be honest with yourself and look at the roots of your ideas, prejudices and behaviour. When you no longer need your partner’s validation, then any encouragement, love, or guidance your partner does offer you will be their very best, given freely and from a place of love. When validation is no longer the primary reason you’re in a relationship, you can explore, enjoy, and appreciate everything that relationship has to offer.

Friendship

A permanent smile on my face
When we meet touch base
Our interactions somewhere in space
My mind’s touch to trace
Your image ingrained
Deep in the terrain
Of the recesses of my brain
Your conversation and charm never constrained
When I think of you
I try and decide
Which way will our friendship go
Much better this I know
Just to let it flow
Keeping the goal in sight
Let what is meant to be
Naturally unfold for us to see