Friendship#Sex#Intrigue# Strangers meet on line#Jigsaw of interactions#Lust#Jealousy
The novel Converging Lives involves the interactions between several main characters playing a word game on line, this game called Word Crozzle is a game played on a board, each takes a turn to play, sometimes people are on line at the same time and play a quick game but because players may be in different countries and different time zones they often play their round, in isolation from their game partners. There is a facility to play with friends or to start a random game with a player chosen by the computer. Thus people are playing multiple games at one time with different people.
There is a facility on the board to chat and many people converse, get to know each other share interests, parts of their lives and become acquaintances, friends or sometimes fall in love. People playing Crozzle may just want to play and not talk with their opponent. Some interactions can be of sexual nature, people looking for a safe way to flirt, have an affair or find the emotional or sexual intimacy missing in their lives. Often this route leads to infatuation and emotions run out of control. Then all the multitude of human emotions come into play lust, infatuation, greed, jealousy, deception as well caring, honesty, honour love and real friendship.
The characters whilst on the board or in other forms of internet communication communicate mainly by text to each other but as the book progresses also have real life conversations. To differentiate text speak from normal speech for the reader TEXT is always denoted ‘…….’ SPEECH by “……..” marks.The main characters live in various parts of the world including Perth Australia, London England, Stockholm Sweden, and Aberdeen Scotland.
Time zones are obviously an issue with Perth Australia being 8 hours ahead of London during British Summer time.
This is a work of fiction put together after research into on line relationships, and discussions with people about their actual stories. I am grateful to those people who have shared their stories and sparked the ideas for this book. So many stories, so many ideas I could only take a few of those ideas and develop them into this novel.
On line relationships are now taking up, a chunk of many people’s lives and so the stories the interactions and the pit falls are becoming more relevant in today’s society. On every form of social media there is a chance to interact with strangers, it brings the world closer brings rewarding new friendships but also the chance to interact with predators, users and sexual stalkers.
Meet some of the players interacting online, share their stories, learn from their mistakes, review your on line behaviour be aware of the need of boundaries.
My fingers reach out into empty space
Eyes fixed on another place searching for the clue
To coordinate to be in a place
Where we can share our excitement too
A space where you might be
To expand the me to become two in that moment
So I can share your joy and see it reflected back in me
Of this far away interaction I am a proponent
Fate and faith come into play
As I join you on the screen and as a voyeur watch
Held by excitement bound to stay
Listening, building, feeling insecurities swatch
Last night I think our conversation became slightly skewed…because I was trying to work through the major character traits of our Eve and Rick….and was trying to work through the negative traits that impact on Eve and Rick and thus their actions and how that might impact on the story ….
We only really talked about negative…
Personalities are complex and what makes a person tick is complicated…but the balance of traits does change how people behave in situations…need to be a shrink to completely analyse…
Understanding needs, motivations and how positive and negative traits develop is an integral part of understanding a person.
So yesterday was talking about negative traits in isolation…..and anger, jealousy, greed, lust , feeling one cant do anything right, feeling unloved, feeling unsafe, feeling inferior, arrogance for example are negative traits that impact behaviour but are maybe balanced by positive traits in our overall personality…
That’s how every persons personality is made…in everyday life we don’t analyse it …we accept how people behave….we are drawn to people whose basic personality resonates with our beliefs and views of the world, we admire peoples strengths and in those people we tolerate those things in them that might not resonate with us…even the annoying ways they may behave sometimes…. Think of some of the things that occasionally irritate you about your friends….
We love our friends flaws and all….because their strengths are the essence of them
Its human to hone in on flaws ..BUT its a persons strengths that we most admire
Negative traits can be overcome…..replaced by positive behaviours….hard to do…but if we understand …what our motivations are can happen…positive growth
But in times of stress and crisis it may be the negative traits that steer our behaviour…..it equally might be the positive ….honour,compassion,kindness,desire to protect others,
Its what causes one person to develop traits like curiosity, decisiveness,and adaptability, while another becomes thoughtful,observant and empathetic….that’s interesting….
First thing is morality….the way right and wrong is seen…
Then the meeting of needs…
For example if a person is safe secure and loved but craves the recognition and esteem of others then the traits of determination, efficiency and perseverance may develop.
When needs are not met anxiety and dissatisfaction develop and behaviour might change…
Core needs are important in life and if a need goes unmet for a long time ,anxiety can change a persons moral compass…
What a person will or will not do in any given situation depends on the the depth of the need and the persons ability to satisfy the need.
Positive traits include creativity, discipline, resourcefulness, caution,generosity,patience, courtesy…
So the negative….or flaw is only a part….but they are the things that drive destructive behaviour….and can in theory be modified and changed.
Sorry this is an essay…just really concerned that the discussion last night was only part of the whole personality picture.
People and what makes us tick really interests me……and I do sometimes pick up on the negatives that I see…when people are demonstrating self limiting behaviour….