Need for self

Rishi kinger's avatarHappy days of life

You, me, we all, each and everyone of us woke up everyday brush up eat and work and sleep and prepare our self for the next day to fight another round of the bout. Let me ask you a simple question why do you work?
Probably you would say what kind of a question is that and for that very moment you don’t have an answer later on it clicks  to you, “To survive”

Well don’t to think our generation have reached beyond that.

Economic says, “to satisfy our need”. True!

We all have needs, both physical and emotional. And we all need to consistently fulfill those needs. Just as you never eat enough to last you forever, you never love enough to last you forever, or do something important enough to last you forever. Needs — whether it’s food, love or meaning — must be replenished regularly.

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Room with a view

The room with the view
Has a problem or two
Its up five flights of stairs
There aren’t any chairs
When you get to the top
You feel that you’ll drop
You are so red in the face
Breathless with the pace
You have to lie down
Now comes a frown
Cause the room with the view
Its only a loo!

Keeping passion alive

Tender moments alone together
Making memories that we treasure
Everlasting love in our minds
Using the irritations, to redraw the lines
For the future looks bright

Making life work together
Life’s storms, help strengthen and weather
Remembering the times we’ve shared
Wanting each to grow, to be, we’ve cared
Negative moments the rarest of all

Excitement grows at the dawn of each day
A new page, of life, to meld, to weigh
Spontaneous moments, ensure the future is secure
It’s not plain sailing, but together we mature
Touch so sweet, tenderness, excitement meet.

Keeping the passion alive.

Wanting

Man with magnetic ways
Eyes that mesmerise , my feelings betray
Your personality and charm I love to see
Please have your way with me
The contrast of your masculinity 
Accentuates my femininity
Striking the match of passion
Blazing rising flames of desire

Woman with intense emotions 
Intending to explore, life’s commotions
Woman with her senses on the edge
Using her sexuality, like a sledge
Wishing for some meaningful connection 
Conjoined against misdirection
The interplay of fantasy
Plays off our ecstasy

FRIENDSHIPS

Picture the times

Remember the rhymes

Words have never been hard to find

The connection is strong

It didn’t take long

There are no rules in the friendship song

The sharing is there

It makes us care

Helps make us complete celebrates the unique

Its supportive and true

And passionate too

It helps us grow with an inner glow!

Friends don’t make demands

Or issue commands

They are staunch and true with no ballyhoo

A Young man’s fantasy and muse

When I was young and sex was new
I caught so many views of you
I glimpsed your breasts and once your bush
I was young and it made me blush

The thoughts of you got buried deep
They haunted my days invaded my sleep
My wanking days had turned to cream
Making me play till I needed to scream

Womens bodies were a mystery
Those glimses became my fantasy
I longed for you to share your charms
To let me take you in my arms
I wanted to touch ,your inner core
That picture will haunt ,for ever more

I am young and dont have the means
To pleasure women till they scream
My time will come and I will thrive
All my life, I will keep my young sex drive

When I was young and sex was new
From the sight of you my passion grew

Making fantasies together

We are the makers of our fantasies
Steering us away from reality
Made of images we create in our minds
Leading us towards the wildness we can find
Together we explore all realms of being
Sensual maybe kinky but totally freeing
Trust that binds us allows for sharing
All ideas pondered our intimacy baring
Expression lands us raw and intense
Ideas unlocked excitingly immense
So many situations and fun to try out
Partners of pleasure no limits no doubt
Flying high on clouds of delight
Fanning the flames our joy alights
Making the visions we hold in our head
Come alive and excite instead

Resentment preventing us being content

Resentment carried over the years, can lay heavy in our hearts, sour our lives and our  relationships. It can be a response we rely on heavily throughout life, when people behave in ways that we see as effecting our value as a human being. We can carry  feelings  of resentment for years, it can have profound effects on our happiness and on our ability to relate in present day relationships. In order to reduce these feelings we have to try to change how we view events. We cannot change what has happened in the past, but we can change how we interprete those events. The events have happened, they are not condoned, nor are the actions of other people. We just reduce their importance in the here and now.
Everytime we see past events in the same way, we produce the same emotional effect as when the event occurred. We also react in the same way to new issues perpetuating reactions in the present.

Why would we want to change how we perceive these events?

We need to do it for us, it reduces the hurt/anger that we feel, when those events, still impact on our lives. Changing our reactions to events that make us feel disempowered, abused,unhappy, angry can be transformational.

How do we view our experiences and how can we change that viewpoint?

We assign meaning to what we see, due to our learned beliefs and our predjudices.We choose how we view events, although it may be an unconscious choice. So in order to stop past events and emotional responses; Plus that learnt reaction method, from dominating our present lives and relationships, we need to examine them and how we view them. Then try to view them differently. Change your invisible glasses to get a different perspective.

Make a list of the issues where you feel that others are to blame for circumstances in your life. Issues from parents, previous lovers, brothers and sisters,coworkers.
How are these issues impacting on your life in the here and now? Choose one issue to deal with and work on changing your viewpoint.

Issues may be due to feelings of rejection, abandonment, abuse, lack of love,lack of feeling valued, feeling lack of care, feeling second best… Please comment and add to the list.

Experiment with different strategies to look at your issue differently so that you get a different emotional response.
 

Definition of Resentment

noun  re·sent·ment \ri-ˈzent-mənt\

Simple Definition of resentment

: a feeling of anger or displeasure about someone or something unfair

Full Definition of resentment

:  a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury

Examples of resentment

She bore bitter feelings of resentment toward her ex-husband.

He’s filled with resentment at his boss.

He expressed his resentment of the new policies.

Synonym Discussion of resentment

offense, resentment, umbrage, pique, dudgeon,huff.

Merriam-Webster online dictionary.

Part 2 will look at strategies for purging resentment to improve your relationship and your life.

Text Snippets from Crozzle. A new flirtation.

Steve : Hello are you playing?
Christine : Yes I am Just had answer the telephone
Christine : Do you like to play your games quickly?
Steve : I try to yes, but I understand if your busy no worries.
Christine : its ok I have so many many games ..so am playing in between ….rather doing lots of other things
Steve : Your very good.
Christine : Thank you..there is a degree of luck to the random especially…the tile placing and the letters…and its never over till its over. In some games I am lagging behind…but love words and games of many sorts so always a pleasure to play. win or lose.
Steve : Yes I agree it’s fun to play and you can meet some very interesting people.
Christine : I have a love of words am aspiring to write….and  want to write poetry about love. …
Steve : That is way cool.
Christine: My name is Christine and I live in Scotland.
Steve : Steve I live in Arizona.
Christine : From the States but playing the English Board.
Steve: I prefer not to play Americans they might be looking for a permanent relationship.
Christine: That’s good you are clear about what you want and you are taking steps to avoid conflict. 
Steve: I am a single father of two, divorced and I intend to stay single. I have a girlfriend but I dont live with her and its really only a sexual  friendship.
Christine: Gosh is she happy with that or does she want more? Sorry talking not playing!
Steve : It’s fine I usually won’t talk but your, interesting, and sexual, I like that. And yes I do have to remind her I don’t want a relationship at all Just sex.
Christine : She needs to want that too or sooner or later she will demand more…or get hurt..but as long as you are honest and you obviously have been…if she comes to you on that basis she takes responsibility for that..and any damage she does to her own relationship…its hard though.
Christine: I have done cybersex with a few people on here, and am a little in love with one of the guys.
Steve: I am getting a little aroused at the thought. Please don’t take the question wrong but does doing cybersex arouse you?