Trust is an important part relationships.
But actually what is trust and what is it in relation, to relationships?
Definition of trust in English:noun[MASS NOUN]
1Firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something:relations have to be built on trust, they have been able to win the trust of the others. OxfordDictionaries.com
But what exactly is trust?
Is it the expectations we put on our partners the boundaries we lay down explicitly or implicitly …if you cross that line, if you do something I don’t want you to do, then my trust has been undermined.
Is this trust? Or is this a means of control making the other work to our values our judgements even if their values are different.
My opinion is that trust is having the faith, that your partner will do their best in every circumstance. They will try to stay true to their values and beliefs and make the best judgements they can.
They may sometimes fail, you may sometimes wish they had behaved differently but you view their choices openly and discuss them in a non judgemental manner.
Trust is enabling your partner to do the best they can using their own values, not trying to enact yours.
If your values are different, if your moral codes are poles apart if you have to set boundaries in order to trust maybe you are with the wrong partner.
The only boundaries you can set and maintain are ones applicable to yourself.
What do you think?