Character traits part of a discussion.

Last night I think our conversation became slightly skewed…because I was trying to work through the major character traits of our Eve and Rick….and was trying to work through the negative traits that impact on Eve and Rick and thus their actions and how that might impact on the story ….
We only really talked about negative…
Personalities are complex and what makes a person tick is complicated…but the balance of traits does change how people behave in situations…need to be a shrink to completely analyse…
Understanding needs, motivations and how positive and negative traits develop is an integral part of understanding a person.
So yesterday was talking about negative traits in isolation…..and anger, jealousy, greed, lust ,  feeling one cant do anything right, feeling unloved, feeling unsafe, feeling inferior, arrogance for example are negative traits that impact behaviour but are maybe  balanced by positive traits in our overall personality…
That’s how every persons personality is made…in everyday life we don’t analyse it …we accept how people behave….we are drawn to people whose basic personality resonates with our beliefs and views of the world, we admire peoples strengths and in those people we tolerate those things in them that might not resonate with us…even the annoying ways they may behave sometimes…. Think of some of the things that occasionally irritate you about your friends….
We love our friends flaws and all….because their strengths are the essence of them
Its human to hone in on flaws ..BUT its a persons strengths that we most admire
Negative traits can be overcome…..replaced by positive behaviours….hard to do…but if we understand …what our motivations are can happen…positive growth
But in times of stress and crisis it may be the negative traits that steer our behaviour…..it equally might be the positive ….honour,compassion,kindness,desire to protect others,
Its what causes one person to develop traits like curiosity, decisiveness,and adaptability, while another becomes thoughtful,observant and empathetic….that’s interesting….
First thing is morality….the way right and wrong is seen…
Then the meeting of needs…
For example if a person is safe secure and loved but craves the recognition and esteem of others then the traits of determination, efficiency and perseverance may develop.
When needs are not met anxiety and dissatisfaction develop and behaviour might change…
Core needs are important in life and if a need goes unmet for a long time ,anxiety can change a persons moral compass…
What a person will or will not do in any given situation depends on the the depth of the need and the persons ability to satisfy the need.

Positive traits include creativity, discipline,  resourcefulness, caution,generosity,patience, courtesy…
So the negative….or flaw is only a part….but they are the things that drive destructive behaviour….and can in theory be modified and changed.
Sorry this is an essay…just really concerned that the discussion last night was only part of the whole personality picture.
People and what makes us tick really interests me……and I do sometimes pick up on the negatives that I see…when people are demonstrating self limiting behaviour….


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