What is the glue that forms the bonds of friendship?

Supports our social identity
Has a similar sense of humour
Shares personal information about her/himself
Listens to our issues and personal information
So friends need to communicate regularly
Might not always agree with us, but is non  judgemental in their responses
Probably shares some interests or passions
Feels loyal and trustworthy

What has made you a strong bond with your best friend?

Life Cycle

I sit in the corner and ponder my fate

Events overtook me

They just would not wait

My life has moved slowly

The seasons have passed

I was never lonely

Midst the flowers and grass

I scattered my seed, in the fullness of time

Then grew infirm, with natures decline

Soon came the winter, that robbed me of life

But destiny gave me a way, to survive

I sit in the corner and ponder my fate

I ask you to come and see my new shape

Although I am changed, please never fear

You can see my full beauty; it’s a view very dear

From a tree tall and stately, please regard

A beautiful chair has been carved.


I need your ideas….to help me out of a dilemma

I am about to produce a book of poetry with images. Having had a few discussions I am confused about what sort of images to use. Some of the poetry has sexual imagery and so, should I go down the route of romantic, mildly erotic or erotica images or go for visual imagery that gives hints and is beautiful.

So what would you vote for.
What type of images might make you look or not look at a book.

Please help me with this by giving me your views.


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Mutual pleasure. (Adult Content.)

Take me
Hold me
Free my fear
Feeling loving and feeling clear

Touch me
Stroke me
Ignite my desire
My whole being, feels on fire

Kiss me
Hold me
Make it right
Merge with me, throughout the night

Teach me
Heed me
Stay within
Fill me, thrill me, need to win

Pleasure me
Worship me
Make it fun
Play my body make it thrum

Touch you
Stroke you
Hold you tight
Pleasure you throughout the night. 

Sated sweetly pure delight.

Coup de Foudre.

The coup de foudre, when it comes
Often has a roll of drums
What sparks the action, who can tell
Lust and hormones, could cause hell
The gentle meeting of two minds
Interests that mean, you are two of a kind
But will it last and stay the course
Or will love die and cause divorce.

3 F-words for you

Happy days of life

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined.”
                                      – Henry Thoreau

I often recall the moment of my life when I thought of living my life on my terms. I was not more than 13. Travelling and living, enjoying MY life
(In India, a 13 is consider as a kid).
But my parent let me live mine.

Of course it’s obvious that such a decision isn’t right for everyone nor possible.

BUT . . . . . you’re feeling unsettled and a bit blah about your life. Right?
You don’t want to make a huge change as I did, but you long for a life that is more fulfilling and rewarding. Is that right too?
Well, then, I have 3 F-words that just might be what you’re looking for.
So without any wait here are they

FIND out what you really want in life.

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Dealing with our limiting behaviours.

Limiting beliefs and behaviour are present when we exhibit anxiety, anger, frustration, jealousy. These emotions prevent us from connecting with people in fact they cause a rift, a chasm between ourselves and others. Our reactions to events are learned and deeply ingrained and often make our lives more miserable and unpleasant than they need to be.

Recognising limiting behaviour is a starting point to make changes to thoughts and behaviour that are often futile and cause us pain and misery.

Angry in that traffic jam, annoyed when your plans crumble, jealous when your partner gives attention to somebody else. Worry about your appearance, or losing face. Feeling ignored or slighted, angry because something you suggested is ignored.

Often the real source of your upset/irritation is your idea that something should be different from the way it is and this causes stress, anxiety or anger inside you thus your body reacts in certain ways. If you could reprogramme your reaction,  whilst the situation would be the same, your thoughts and reactions would be different.

Taking a moment to reflect on your reaction and what triggered it, may give you a chance to modify your behaviour or your thoughts.

Recently I came off a cruise ship in Southampton,the ship had been forced to dock earlier than planned at a different berth than expected, because of an impending storm. This meant that the cars for all the passengers were in the wrong car park and we had to be taken by bus with our luggage to our cars. Thus causing some delay in leaving the ship to go home.
The gentleman in front of me in the queue was incandescent with rage. As we neared the bus a lady from the car parking Company was giving directions. The man stood inches in front of her and was very aggressive saying. “This is not bloody good enough the cars should have been moved, I paid to have my car at the ship when I docked!” The lady said “I am sorry sir, we didn’t know the ship was berthing here until 4am, this was a situation outside our control we didn’t  have time to move the cars.”
The man then said. ” It’s total inefficiency, the cars should have been moved, I think you are totally bloody useless …..”.and lots more as well.
He was red in the face and pop eyed. True his car was not where he expected it, true it meant getting the car was delayed slightly, true he had to queue and get on a bus.
That was a given and yes an annoyance, but instead of looking at the negatives he could have turned the thought on its head and looked at the good job that was done in the circumstances.
1000 cars were impractical to move but the company had laid on buses and people to advise and direct. Then maybe whilst not happy about the situation he might have had a less extreme reaction and felt happier, not angry, and with less stress hormones filling his body. He might have also mentally been in a better to place to get in a car on a wet windy day to drive home.

When limiting behaviours are triggered in your life you need to try to work out the underlying belief that has triggered that reaction. I am too important to be kept waiting,  I am being insulted, this is causing me to lose face, etc etc.
What do you think was the underlying belief that triggered the cruise passengers behaviour?

How often is your limiting behaviour triggered and what are the thoughts (maybe unconscious thoughts), that trigger those behaviours in you?

When you assess the impact this belief has had on your life, you might realize that you’ve been sabotaging your ability to enjoy the present moment. Rather life is a red haze,  or misery or anxiety that could be modified.
Reducing limiting behaviours is not easy but being aware of your reactions to situations is a great starting place.

Thinking about beliefs

I discovered a secret so true today
It made be stop and rethink my philosophy
We all need affection, a connection
To be appreciated and to stop misdirection
Misdirection that maybe stunts our growth
That we use in our world, to hold back our feelings
Or maybe to stop the status quo, from unreeling
Our beliefs we can change, with a fight and struggle
If we recognise they are outmoded they are causing us trouble
We make excuses for not taking action
Because maybe morally it causes dissention
We need to love ourselves did I mention